Teddy and his mum

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This is a fun photograph of my husband and his mother on a glacier in Austria in the late 1960s. Doesn’t she look like the coolest chick with that Caucasian ‘fro? Her hair was naturally curly. She died peacefully in her sleep on Monday 4th January after a long battle with Alzheimer’s disease. Nessie spent the last four years of her life in a wonderfully caring home in Scotland and thrived under their care. I still can’t believe that she lived so long – she had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at least 15 years before her death at the age of 87.

This week has passed in a blur, writing a business plan for my husband on Monday, then onto all the funeral preparations. The mortuaries are full of bodies at this time in Scotland. Somehow the cold and viruses just takes out the weak. The funeral is planned for Wednesday 13th January when we have a brief break in the weather. It will be near freezing but dry – so important if you are travelling in Scotland (or to Scotland).

Curiously, the funeral will take place on the same day that my mother died 14 years ago. They were good friends in life so perhaps they will be again in death. I asked my husband if I could speak at her church service and he thought that was a good idea as he would be too upset. I first met her when I was 21 years old and she accepted me immediately. It is now over 34 years later, I am still married to her only child and I cared for her relentlessly. She had good instinct.

I will probably not blog again for a couple of weeks but who knows? The journey across the pond is tiring and we have much to do in a short time. We traveled regularly to the UK to see my husband’s parents but now we are unlikely to do so for some years. Our visit will be a gentle goodbye to both a lovely mother and a beautiful country.

52 thoughts on “Teddy and his mum

  1. great photograph, makes me want to be there straight away! I also like your husbands jumper, very fashion forward! sorry to hear your mother in law passed away and that you will be saying good-bye to Scotland in some ways… hope this trip will also bring you joy and strength.
    Big hug,
    Dagmar

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  2. I’m so sorry to read this. Travel well and travel safely and take care of yourself and the others bereaved. Most of all take your time away from the noise of blogging. We’ll all still be here when the time is right to return. Much love xx

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  3. Andy is very recognizable from that photo and a lovely one of his Mum.I will be thinking of you and hope you have a good trip.  I know you will give a great speech at the funeral. Love Liben xx

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  4. I’m sorry to hear that. Tell your hubby I think I can understand how he feels to some degree as my folks are not long for this world. I hope the trip goes well, and I look forward to hearing from you when you get back. All the best from John & Vinny!

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  5. Sorry for your loss, its all been said! Beautiful photo and the cold might be a good distraction from the emotion … your relationship with Scotland will change but the memories keep places and people in our hearts. Go in peace and care.

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  6. My mother died in January 15 years ago, but it seems like yesterday. She was buried on the 4th. I read your words and feel so sad. It seems a bleak season in Scotland. I’ve visited a few times in the summer months and the nights were cold even then. What I want to say is I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope Teddy’s Mum has found peace and that your new journey together will lead you to much happiness. Clare

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    1. Thank you so much for your lovely words, Clare. It is a strange sorrow when you lose someone from Alzheimer’s because you lose them in little pieces. I am very glad to get home to sunny Houston. January is a sad month for many of us and I share in your grief. K x

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