I recently wrote a tongue in cheek post entitled Hueheucoyotl is mischief making. Sometimes I take for granted that many of my followers know all about my ancestry and DNA. New readers must look at my profile picture and envision someone Scandinavian or Irish – both are correct. My name Kerry is a giant clue.
I very rarely receive unpleasant comments (if ever?) – the spam is just that. The comment below, on the above post, incensed me.
Typical white woman think she can just claim our culture. Also just necause you want to interpret things as the work of Huehuecoyotl it does not even remotely mean you have facilitated contact. What a joke, if only my teacher could hear this hahaha. I am Mexican and Navajo descent as well, Coyote is my spirit brotjer/reflection so you’re literally getting it from the horses mouth :p (sic)
Perhaps I should have just deleted it but this is my response –
I will shortly delete both of these comments but how dare you! I have both North American and Central American Native DNA with a long line of Mexican ancestors that I can trace back to the 1700s. My grandfather was born on the Chickasaw Nation reservation in Purcell, OK. Why don’t you go take some lessons on DNA, recessive genetics that produce blue eyed blondes, and more importantly on etiquette? You would make President Trump proud with your racist views. I can choose whichever spirit reflection I want. It’s unlikely I received your opinion from the horse’s mouth but from his ass.
The more I ruminated on it, the more I thought that I would write this post. It sounded like a young person with a chip on his shoulder. Try living in a Scottish public housing estate with the name de Ortega. My only advantage was that I was not discriminated against in the work field as I might have been if I had stayed in California, my birth state. Most people of Mexican origin are happy to accept me as a half cousin but sometimes I know that I am not quite Mexican enough. In truth, nobody from Mexico is indigenous because the native tribes both north and south came across the ice passage from Siberia and Asia.

This is my Grandma Juanita and my great aunt. I don’t think there is any doubt about their Mexican heritage. Which one is my grandma?
Mestizo means mixed and can be used as a mongrel insult. We should all be proud that most of us are mixed. It should give us less reason to hate each other but even Hitler had some Jewish blood. Not all my family were happy about a Catholic marrying a Protestant, both of whom no longer believed in our faiths. I have embraced my Catholic upbringing with a sense of nostalgia and happily pray in churches all over the world. None of that means that I believe in institutionalized religion but I enjoy elements from most beliefs and faiths.
There was no vision about Huehuecoyotl being my spirit guide, just a happy quirkiness in embracing one of my many roots, with no offence intended. I like Freya, leprechauns and a wide variety of saints. My unwelcome commentator has not responded to my rather snarky reply. After a few days of working with an impossible millennial, I feel a little sympathy but not much.
From the adult photo I would say that Juanita is on the left side as you look at the photo.
This side…………………………………………………………………………………..not this side.
LikeLiked by 3 people
My response has disappeared below. You are completely correct! Look underneath CarMac’s reply.
LikeLike
Nice photos. 😊😊
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you! Mi color de pelo natural es oscuro, pero ahora gris … ¡debajo del rubio!
LikeLike
You are correct! In some teenage photographs I look exactly as she did. My great aunt looked like she had a little more Mexican native in her but she is the one who said we were 100% Spanish…🇲🇽
LikeLike
In these times that we live in this is a wonderful post where you encapsulate diversity (geez hope that doesn’t sound like I’m up my own bum) anyway great story, great post 😀
LikeLiked by 3 people
LOL! Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment (only my commentator is up his own bum!). 😘
LikeLiked by 1 person
Kerry you look lovely in every photo. Racism is racists problem. I teach 33 nationalities and see only children not colour😘💕
LikeLiked by 3 people
@Anne… https://www.theodysseyonline.com/of-course-you-see-color-stop-being-ridiculous
LikeLiked by 2 people
That was an excellent article. So true.
LikeLike
Thank you so much, Anne. I know that you really mean what you say and I appreciate you! 😘
LikeLike
WP is playing tricks. Your response is two below! 😁
LikeLike
Sadly, some people find getting offended the best use of their time and energy. I have some sympathy for youngsters with chips on their shoulders – we all had a few of them once upon a time, but they wear off.
But as for the others…?
I’ve been thinking about this recently, because I saw that funny and moving film Three Billboards…(etc.) Good old-fashioned story-telling with vivid-but-flawed characters, that tackles some big themes without offering simple solutions.
And of course the grandstanding by The Offended has already started. There’s a racist in it (who might just be redeemable, sort of.) There are jokes at the expense of the character played by Peter Dinklage. (Well, he must have failed to read the script.)
Hell, when I decided I too could be offended, I didn’t have to look far. One of the characters makes a remark about “an old lady with a funny eye.”
That just has to mean me. Yes!!! I’m old. There’s no denying it. I have a funny eye, courtesy of one retinal detachment too many. Am I offended? You betcha.
LikeLiked by 3 people
In reality, I can be the most tactless person on earth asking people precisely where their ancestors came from because I am nosy. I am also an old lady (my millennial colleague pointed that out) with a dodgy lens in one eye that doesn’t always work and everything is fuzzy – so I do empathize. The critical point is the INTENT of a racist, tactless or unkind comment. Life is funny as long as we all laugh together. And on a completely non PC note, if I even met my commentator I would give him a right wallop. 😁
LikeLiked by 1 person
Love your answer. I wonder if the racist twit will ever bother to respond.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you Peggy. Don’t you always wish you could come up with a sharp, snarky comment as an immediate response to a detractor?? I suspect he was trolling the internet looking for interesting stuff and has moved on. I do have his email…😈
LikeLiked by 1 person
Lovely pictures and wonderful heritage, Kerry.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you so much, Leah. I particularly like my grandma and aunt in their big hats!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I do too! They’re really cute!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Love the pictures! You are one strong woman!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much Lynz! That really means something coming from you. 😘
LikeLiked by 1 person
Xxxxx
LikeLike
My goodness! Racism is a huge problem in society and I am glad that you stand up replying to her rude and judgemental email. I just don’t get with these type of humans.
Lovely images of you when you were little 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much, Indah. I don’t think any of us should be quiet about anything anymore. Life is changing and we are all fed up with racism, bullying and unkindness. 🕊️
LikeLike
It’s coming back to the surface in our country, but it’s always bubbling around with someone. I’m pretty color blind and now partially hard of hearing. But Kerry does the best thing ever to basically be the last racist and more aware of others,,,,she travels,,,alot and writes about it. We try to also, with family in different ways. We love to sail, family adventure and connect with the people in the area, and NOT be ugly Americans.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Chad – you are certainly not an ugly American. Racism exists in every part of the globe. Thank you for being such a gentleman.
LikeLiked by 1 person
It’s taken awhile and I’m certainly not that much of a gentlemen as my “only” online presence sometimes makes me out to me but thank you so much- appreciate the feedback and interaction- don’t change
LikeLiked by 2 people
Well that applies to us all, Chad. You should hear me screeching like a fishwife at my husband about something that has annoyed me. Or the very bad cuss words I use in my car at the cars that dare behave badly in front of me…😁
LikeLiked by 1 person
You are right on Kerry. I am glad you posted this. Continue to be proud of your heritage and just ignore those less informed people who write before they think about what they are saying. Not worth getting worked up about. Gary
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you, Gary. I was only incensed for a short while – those feisty Mexican/Irish genetics. 😁 I could have just deleted it but I just wanted to say that my commentator was uninformed and unkind. Working at the airport today so someone else will have me all riled up!!
LikeLike
It must have been a dreadful shock to receive such a nasty comment but your response is superb. It is true that racists exist in every culture and also true that to be fascist you have to be extremely ignorant and uneducated. We surely all know that mongrel is the default human state …. that is precisely why we have evolved so strongly, mixing blood and fortifying the species as we happily procreate freely rather than insisting on marrying ‘In’ which results in weaker strains and genetic defects. You are a stunner inside and out and it is lovely to see the picture of your feminine forebears who gave you a dollop of who you are …. a woman to be proud of! X
LikeLiked by 2 people
What a lovely compliment, Osyth. In Scotland, my mum was asked if I was a half-caste because of my coloring as a child. She was very careful to make me really proud of both sides of my family despite divorcing my Dad. It is really very funny that now I look SO white! Thank you my dear friend. Didn’t you love those hats? ❤️
LikeLiked by 2 people
Adored the hats! I love old pictures and imagining what it must have been like …. I’m so glad your mum did such a good job of making you proud of where you came from on both sides of your gene pool …. I think it is so important. I divorced but that was between me and their father and no reason to vilify their paternal heritage. I think it is so damaging and irresponsible when parents do that and sadly so many do!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I very much admire you for not vilifying your daughters’ father. When my mum became an alcoholic, the truth came out but she was a victim of her mental illness and addiction. As far as I can figure out, my Dad was a charismatic ass who self-medicated an undiagnosed mental illness. There but for the grace of God, Freya or Huehuecoyotl, go us all. 😁
LikeLike
There indeed x
LikeLiked by 1 person
Kerry, sweet Kerry….there really are just some sad people out there. Your heritage is beautiful. You are beautiful and that is all that matters. Hugs 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Oh, you are so kind, Lynne. I really am proud of my mixed heritage. Wouldn’t it be great if every racist had to take a DNA test??? Thank you for the lovely compliment. ❤️
LikeLiked by 1 person
You go, girl! I chuckled at this clever remark: “It’s unlikely I received your opinion from the horse’s mouth but from his ass.” Witty without being malicious.
Love all the photos!
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you, Margarisa! That was one of my better retorts. Never seem to be that smart in real time! 😻
LikeLiked by 1 person
De nada, mi amiga! Haha – I can relate. 😸
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great post. I agree, racism comes in every color & culture. It’s a sensitive issue so most prefer to keep it quiet this I admire people who speak about it. 👍
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much! Most of us are of mixed race, even if we don’t know it yet.
LikeLike
I know I harp on this all the time but again, we must stop with our assumptions and thinking we know someone’s story just because of outward appearance or behaviors. While you should never have to “prove” who you are because some idiot (yup, I went there) is taking ownership of an entire culture, It’s unfortunate (I have to get sarcastic here) it seems most of us are from Missouri “you gotta show us.” Geez the smarter we become technologically speaking the dumber we become in the real world. Although people are so crazy anymore I could easily see someone getting up in your face with this ridiculous remark. Good for you for calling them out Kerry!! ❤
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you, Steph. I just decided that I would be brave and speak out. Not only is my ethnicity hidden but my mental illness, too. If I could have a dollar for every time someone has said ‘but you are not really American’ or ‘you look perfectly fine’. You understand better than most. ❤️
LikeLiked by 1 person
We entered a new century less than 20 years ago, and there is still so much ignorance in the world. Be well. Loved the photos.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much. I don’t think as a species we have evolved as much as we believe…🦖🦕
LikeLiked by 1 person
I agree with you 100%.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I have very short dinosaur arms…
LikeLiked by 1 person
lol
LikeLiked by 1 person
I hate that bullies come in all races, religions, sexes and cultures. I have no idea why people make hate out of things. The most wonderful thing is when people are mixed. I value my Irish and Jewish heritages but have chosen not to have as religion. I am aware that I am judged for that often, but I can certainly cope. People who hate are just that: people of hatred. (Loved the ‘horse’s ass’ bit x)
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you! Yours sounds like a fascinating heritage – all that guilt from both sides!!! Jewish mothers are not unlike Irish mothers. 🕎☘️
LikeLiked by 1 person
Roll on, mixed race – surely we’d all be better off with more changes of blood in each generation x
LikeLiked by 3 people
Did you know that the Amish have a proportionately higher rate of Tourette’s syndrome because of their smaller gene pool? Somehow that suggests that Mother Nature has a sense of humor…
LikeLike
I don’t get it. While I’m proud of my ancestry, it really doesn’t matter, does it? After all, aren’t we all supposed to be descendants of Lucy from the Rift Valley in Africa? We are all human.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I think I might have some lizard DNA (Irish/Mexican, of course)… 🦎 I only get warm when basking in the heat. 😎
LikeLiked by 1 person
You are a riot. So glad that we’ve met!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Me, too! I love a bit of naughtiness. 😈
LikeLike
Hi my friend, I think you did well by replying… It would have been easier to delte the comment, but you could´t have made your point and that would have been a way to ignore major issues.
I am always suprised when americans mention the black-white opposition… After centuries of the awful Civil War, one can still feel the atmosphere. And so it goes.. Anyway, USA is full of Latins… regular citizens, not illegal… So, it is odd… The same feeling tends to perpetuate beyond borders, for mexicans, given Trump´s ideas…
Sending love ❤
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you, Aquileana. I think the #Me too movement inspired me not to be silent. Many people comment that I am not really American or Hispanic just because of my accent and looks – it drives me crazy!!! When I was younger and darker, I looked more exotic and less Irish. Ah well, such is life.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Ms. Kerry….Thank you for slapping a big fat exclamation point on this topic which is rarely discussed. In my world, I rather tend to view folks as my dog views folks. I get a feeling about them-no matter their color, the name they call their Creator, their gender, language and/or any other labels used by society to separate us from our human-ity. I was born into this life with blonde hair and blue eyes and very pale skin. Some say: “You were blessed” (by these physical characteristics), for me it has been a blessing and a curse. It seems that you as well have suffered similar effects of (for lack of a better term) reverse-racism. I will end with this: I, like you and every other living thing on this planet need to accept that we are all part of the same living energy. I am human, as are you, as is the racist whom would disrespect all life with such sadly ignorant statements. Labels are incredibly divisive-We need to stop talking and just BE. My Ziggy Dog has it going on (Lucky guy) He just LOVES. (and occasionally Barks).We can learn alot from our canine earthmates if we would just shut the hell up and BE.
LikeLiked by 3 people
I am glad my post struck a chord with you. Dogs are the most variant of any species on earth! We should enjoy our diversity in every way. Thank you for visiting my site!
LikeLike
You’re so right about being proud to be mixed! I’m half Egyptian, and the rest is a wild mix of German, French and Russian and whoever else wanted to join the family! 😂 Some people just don’t get it, you have to feel sorry for their disability.
Loved your photos, you were (and still are!) such a cutie! 😊😚❤
LikeLiked by 3 people
Wow! I love your exotic mix – I will think of you as Cleopatra from now on… Did you live in Egypt? And thank you…I only use the cute photos. 😁
LikeLike
Pingback: Venom | Postcards from Kerry
Wonderful commentary, Kerry! 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much – this was deeply personal.
LikeLiked by 1 person