Change is inevitable

Change is inevitable… but it can fill us with trepidation. When I researched this post, I was astonished at how many ‘change is inevitable’ quotations there are from Benjamin Disraeli’s ‘Change is inevitable. Change is constant.’ to more prosaic.  Sometimes people long for change, as we did before we moved to Egypt. That move was less fearful, although more challenging, than the next to Texas. We could not have predicted that the second Gulf war would have started 4 months after our arrival in Cairo nor could we have anticipated so many extreme weather events in Texas. The recent deep freeze was just the ‘icing’ on the cake. Do you see what I did there? Teddy is tired of my silly, pun filled humor after a year sequestered together…

I am leading up to the elephant in the room – the biggest change in modern history and most of us didn’t see it coming. Dare I even mention the pandemic or are we all sick of it? Not only have we dealt with unexpected change personally but also in society. Some cultures and nations have dealt with it more graciously and effectively than others. I am not a fan of Sweden’s current laissez faire approach to Covid-19 but perhaps not unexpected given their history of forced sterilization of mentally disabled/unwell, Roma (and other people deemed anti-social) from 1906 to 1975. Something similar happened in Canada to the indigenous. We all know how despicable the USA can be – need I list our many egregious acts? I dare not cast any stones. None of us truly know what was or is the best course of action for this pandemic, nor will we for years. Life will not go back to what it was but will evolve into something different, perhaps better or worse. This year has given us plenty of time to think and reflect – a scary prospect for many of us. I rarely look in a mirror for long because I don’t like what I see both superficially and behind my eyes.

Since my second vaccination there has been a calming within me. I am fully aware that there could be a Covid mutation lurking but I am less panicked about getting seriously ill. The truth is that I am always unwell and that’s why I take daily medication. I have looked at my behavior and actions this year – my mental illness is real, quantifiable and more debilitating than I thought. Strangely, it is a relief to finally accept the truth. No magic pill or treatment awaits me. It is not normal to go to bed at 6 pm, fall asleep about 9.30 pm and then not rise until 11 am. I am not always fully asleep but I am hiding under the covers or reading. Yesterday I did something I had been putting off for weeks. We called an air conditioning firm, got quotations and we are having a completely new HVAC system installed.

I wanted it done quickly but was totally overwhelmed by the speed and cost although I had thoroughly researched it (for years). I went to bed even earlier, chewed my mouth until it hurt and didn’t get up until midday. After they finish the installation, I will be even more anxious, in physical pain from tensing my body and will probably drink some unnecessary wine. I still haven’t learned to pace myself either because as soon as the charming chatty estimator left, I went to two garden centers to replace the dead plants in our yard. In the last year there has been significant building on the farmland and forest around our township.  Roads that were once quiet are frenetic.  You are either stuck behind a very sporty Audi driven by some old dude at 30 mph or some eejit in a truck who is weaving at high speed. The tension was rising in my addled brain and when I could barely find a parking space at either garden center, I just retreated to the safety of our home. That wiped me out.

I felt so frustrated – where is the person who trekked across Belize, Mexico and Malaysia solo? Perhaps this is how a caged animal feels when you open the door?  Objectively, I know that time is a great healer and practice will make driving feel less frightening.  Much of my working life was spent soothing clients in distress, from mentally ill people and passengers at the airport.  Sometimes they were both!  The inability to interact with people in a meaningful way inevitably leads to self-absorbed thinking.  We are unable to use perspective without seeing normal societal encounters as a gauge.  Therapy is an ideal option for some but not for me.  I hope this is not seen as a negative post as I would prefer it to be revelatory.  Positivity is a wonderful trait if it is genuine but you can’t force it.  Over the last year I have felt ridiculously happy at times, sometimes anguished and now thoughtful.  Then there is all the guilt about the people who are struggling much more but that’s another post.

This is part one of an essay about Change and Evolution.

21 thoughts on “Change is inevitable

  1. Life is the result of a series of changes from birth to death. Be it physical, emotional, career or relationship. Change is inevitable and I see it, most of the time, as synonymous with life and growth. To go with the wind is the easiest way of survival. The trees that bend down against the storm survive while those that try to stand erect get uprooted. You alone can’t change the whole world and if you will not adjust you will be left alone among the crowd. So change your viewpoint and enjoy the change.

    Thanks for sharing such beautifully written and thoughtful post. I very much enjoyed reading it. I am also glad to hear you are now fully vaccinated. Did you experience any side effects after the second dose? I hope all is well. Take care. Aiva 🙂 xxx

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    • Thank you, Aiva. I enjoyed your imagery about trees that bend in the wind and agree that life is a series of changes (whether we like it or not). I did not have any problems with the second vaccination other than a sore arm. Much nicer than the typhoid vaccine…😱 Keep well and safe. K x

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  2. I do enjoy the ice pun 🙂 And yes – may we all rise to the challenge of the many changes we face, some painful, some long overdue. I’m glad you’re fully vaccinated and can at least breathe a little easier for awhile!

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  3. I don’t see it as a negative post but a post from the heart. We have not seen any real cure since pennicilin. In that statement there is no real magic pill for any of us. Covid is a trying time in the humanity’s timeline but it also made some of us reflective within us. Feeled yourself hugged. ❤

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  4. This post doesn’t come across as negative at all. It’s insightful, thought-provoking and relatable in many ways. Which of us have not been frustrated when comparing our current self to our past self, wondering why we’re not the way we were? Knowing that change is inevitable doesn’t make it easier to accept.

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